I hope you can answer my question regarding suffering. In Dr. Karen
Horney’s book, “Neurosis and Human Growth- the struggle Towards Self
Realization” she said this
*“Only when the pride system is considerably undermined does he begin to
feel true suffering. Only then can he feel sympathy for this suffering self
of his, a sympathy that can move him to do something constructive for
himself. The self-pity he felt before was rather a maudlin writhing of the
proud self for feeling abused. He who has not experienced the difference
may shrug his shoulders and think that it is irrelevant—that suffering is
suffering. But it is true suffering alone that has the power to broaden and
deepen our range of feelings and to open our hearts for the suffering of
others. In De Profundis Oscar Wilde has described the liberation he felt
when, instead of suffering from injured vanity, he started to experience
As you may know Cal Jung said that *”neurosis is a substitute for
In Gnosticism, it was said that Jesus sung to his disciples the following
excerpt from a Hymn.
_If thou hadst known how to suffer,
thou wouldest have been able not to suffer.
Learn thou to suffer, and thou shalt be able not to suffer’_
In reading the above passages,it’s safe to say that there are two kinds of
suffering: real and imaginary or meaningful and meaningless. If a person
who carries with him trauma from having been sexually abused and if he were
to free himself from it, as Dr. Horney said, will it also free him of any
other trauma he most likely had during childhood? In other words, does
trauma reside all in one place in our psyche?
Hi Carl great info! My gf and I are wonderful but she has a lot of anger
from losing her dad she “play fights” with me all the time and calls me
names and is irritable
How should I handle this
Should I set my boundaries or should I let it be and not take it
Should I guide and redirect her anger?? What should I do?? She means the
world to me
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